“Fathers, Your Family Needs You”

Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord… Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church…

(Ephesians 6:4; 5:25a)

Spiritual war rages. The dangers are innumerable and subtle. Brothers, God has given us charge over our families. We must fight tooth and nail against the cosmic powers of this darkness that would threaten our homes. We need valiant warriors equipped not with swords and spears but with spiritual weapons of discernment, courage, integrity, wisdom, faith, hope and love.

PRAY FOR YOU WIFE & CHILDREN EVERY DAY – Without fail, you must pray for the spiritual wellbeing of your family every single day, over and over again. Name every member of the family. Pray that God may protect them from the evil one, that God would lead them in paths of righteousness, that God would make them strong against temptation. Our job is to call down blessing from God, hour by hour, upon the family. Headship begins with constant prayer for the family (Job 1:5).

SET STANDARDS FOR YOUR WIFE & CHILDREN – Work out the standards with your wife first. Your wife does not want you to dominate the family nor does she want to run the show. She is eager for you to take initiative and responsibility for the moral direction of the family. Using Biblical principles, decisions must be made concerning how the children dress, how they are entertained, where they go and what they do. The Bible emphasizes guidance, not control, of children (Prov. 22:6). With that being said, fathers who allow their children to dictate the family’s standards of morality are failing in their responsibility.

DON’T LET YOUR FAMILY GO TO BED ANGRY – (Eph. 4:29) How does the devil infiltrate a teenager’s bedroom? When dad takes no steps toward reconciliation he is leaving the door wide open for the devil to tear his family to shreds. Anger can wreak havoc on a soul, on a marriage and on an entire family if left unchecked. Dad, headship of the family means you must initiate reconciliation no matter whose fault it is, how grievious the sin is or how often the sin occurs (Eph. 5:25). You simply do not have the luxury to be unmerciful (Mt. 18:21ff).

CONFESS YOUR SINS AND ASK FOR FORGIVENESS – Not many things can break a teenager but the soft heart of his grown father confessing his faults and asking for forgiveness just might. The sincerity of a repentant father and husband might be the healing balm for your family because it is evidence that the gospel is at work in you. When they see repentance in you it may soften their heart. Obviously, peace is a two-way street but the burden of responsibility lies with you dad: “If possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with all men.” (Rom. 12:18)

Fathers, your daughters need to hear straight talk from you about modesty and your sons need to hear straight talk from you about integrity. Husbands, your wife desperately needs you to lovingly lead the family to heaven. Follow Jesus’s lead!